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12-03-2004, 03:11 AM
Hi,
First let me say what a good site with some useful info, well done.
I am looking to seek help from a hypnotherapist. In the past i've had phsychiatric help in the form of CBTwhich did help me some what with my problems but i do have tendency to fall back into my bad ways. What I would like to no is what help should i seek out first ie smoking, drinking, jealousy confidence etc etc. I tend to find them all of importance and I'm on a budget as with most people, i no then your probably say smoking and then I'll have more money. Also as a bit of a non believer in hypnosis why do you not practice a service of a "If it don't work, don't pay service" I use this for my computer business and find that people always offer more when they are happy with the results. feel free to critise my comments as my esteem is always low anyway.
Thanks once again.
Hello,
operating the sort of policy where if it doesn't work you aren't charged is offered by some practitioners. I do.
that won't help if you are not able to afford it in the first place though! unless nothing is going to work with you as you always have such low expectations.??
look around it is always possible to find the solutions that one wants.
Kim x:D
Hello Mico,
Try to think of it this way: in over 30 years as an hypnotherapist I can only think of one client who didn't find some benefit in hypnotherapy, however small. Most went away without the problem they came in with. Some went away before the treatment was finished and it is difficult to say how well they fared.
Now, if you are that one person who gets little or no benefit from hypnotherapy then what will it cost you to find out? It will cost you one session. The course of treatment may be longer, but you are intelligent and you will know if anything has changed after the first session. Change, sometimes small, sometimes earth-shattering can be that rapid with both hypnotherapy and NLP.
Is it worth it to you to find out?
Jack
Very often, people have what appears to be a desire for a wide variety of changes, but it turns out they are all related. By dealing with that über-issue you can deal with several or all of the presenting issues.
So, without doing an interview with you it is impossible to say which issue(s) should be dealt with first. My suggestion: contact a hypnotherapist in your area and go in for an interview. Together you can determine what approach will be the best for you.
I realize that many computer services have an "if it doesn't work don't pay" policy. But your mind is not made of silicon. Doctors don't have such a policy. Surgeons don't have such a policy. Dentists don't have such a policy. Psychiatrists/psychologists don't have such a policy.
In fact, most of those professions have an "if it didn't work, I'll charge you more and even then I won't guarantee that it will work" policy. As pointed out above, some hypnotherapists offer a guarantee. Some will refund your money if something doesn't work. Some will give you more sessions until you achieve your goals at no extra charge. For reasons that are known to hypnotists concerning expectations and value, I offer neither. But if someone were to feel uncomfortable with the process, I might talk with him or her about dealing with that issue.
Merlin
12-03-2004, 08:47 AM
Hi,
If it were me, and on a budget, I'd go for the change which would save me money; smoking or drinking.
Which one hurts your life more?
Does one effect your loved ones more?
As far as "If it don't work, don't pay service" that is dangerous. It actually sets you up for failure because you have nothing at risk.
I actually charge more just for that reason. More on the line, more at risk, more motivation to succeed.
Get your money back and what have you lost? Just a little time.
It may not sound good to you the customer, but the goal is not the money, it's your success!
Terry (existing)
12-03-2004, 09:59 AM
Having read the replies from Jack, Don, and Merlin, it would seem that there is nothing to add, they said it all.
On the other hand, nobody was so rude as to comment on the picture you paint of yourself in your own offering. I am that rude, but for good reason, I find it a reasonable action to ask a client or someone seeking advice, to look within before seeking help without.....
You show yourself ... unwilling to take full advantage of those tools offered you in the past, and likely to be no different in the future. Why would someone like myself, offer you help which I suspect would be received with suspicion, (you said it yourself) and rejected as unlikely to help, and do so without payment for my time? Let me assure you, I would think very hard before taking you on as my client for twice the money and no money back deal, because I value my time, and believe you to be what you show yourself to be, an unreliable prospect....
Unregistered
12-03-2004, 06:06 PM
Thanks for all your comments,yes Terry I am suspicious of all kinds of things,trust has been broken in my life not once but all through it. when your young you do things not because you want to but you feel you have to, without understanding and not kowing right from wrong, I've seen stage work of many hypnotists and i seem to get the same feeling of that, so i'm scared of not only it not working and putting my trust on the line and also it working and doing something that is wrong.
Thanks again
TaffyE
12-03-2004, 06:48 PM
Mico
>so i'm scared of not only it not working and putting my trust on the line
What if you did, and it works the way you want it to?
I've seen stage shows, TV shows, and movies with vampires, monsters, and werewolves. Of course, in real life, there aren't creatures like that. It's done for a show.
What if stage hypnosis is all done for a show and to entertain and hypnotherapy is quite different, with a focus on helping people rather than entertaining. Is that possible?
Mico,
It is always difficult to trust when trust has been broken, but without trust you will not get better. You can be as safe as you would like to be by making sure that the hypnotherapist you choose is a competent professional who has experience in your problem. Just ask. And be prepared for success.
Jack
Terry (existing)
12-04-2004, 12:08 PM
Thanks for all your comments,yes Terry I am suspicious of all kinds of things,trust has been broken in my life not once but all through it. when your young you do things not because you want to but you feel you have to, without understanding and not kowing right from wrong, I've seen stage work of many hypnotists and i seem to get the same feeling of that, so i'm scared of not only it not working and putting my trust on the line and also it working and doing something that is wrong.
Thanks againThat we understand the "why" is if no help to YOU, and living without trust is no life at all. We are born with the capacity and the need to trust. Trust that we will be fed regularly, trust that we will be cared for until we are old enough to fend for ourselves etc..Without any trust how do you survive? I know you trust that you will wake up tomorrow, or why do you set that alarm clock so you can get to work on time? You trust that your car will start when needed, or that the public transit will function, and get you to your destination don't you? So many way you are forced to trust in order to function in this world, so you are wrong when you claim you are unable to trust, you do it regularly in spite of being let down in times past.....
NOW, I am retired, you have nothing to offer me, so I can therefor be trusted to offer you good advice, because right or wrong, I will not be advanced in any way by that advice, and it's this. On this board alone, we have many highly experience practitioners on both sides of the pond, and even in Australia....If I had the need for assistance from hypnosis, in spite of my knowledge, based on thirty five years of experience, I would be happy to ask any of them for help, advice, or therapy if needs be....Why, because i read their posts constantly, and know them from those posts. I know they would do the best they could for me, and in spite of having no quarantee that they would succeed, I would place myself in their hands knowing that no-one can do more than their best, and knowing that the best would be working on me. If you can do that, you are likely to be helped greatly, and if not don't waste time and money, because without the belief that you are getting the best, it is unlikely that you will use such help effectively.
I am convinced that there are many good folk out there capable of helping, and trustworthy, but unless you can extend your hand in hope, that will be of no help to you. You decide, not us........
TaffyE
12-05-2004, 02:45 AM
Quoted by Terry
"On this board alone, we have many highly experience practitioners on both sides of the pond, and even in Australia...."
Not only that, but we now have electricity too!!! :) :)
Terry (existing)
12-05-2004, 10:28 AM
Damn Taff, how come I wasn't informed of this? Now I can visit without having to leave my electric shaver behind....
TaffyE
12-05-2004, 06:31 PM
Damn Taff, how come I wasn't informed of this? Now I can visit without having to leave my electric shaver behind....
We all have to have our little secrets, don't we. :D