Rapport And Differences

[Simple Guy]

A poster said: "Freedom of expression always clashes with respect." There
are times it does and to the extent it does it can interfere with rapport.
Any hypnotists and NLPers want to share your strategies to protect against this?

[skip]

To protect against what?

And in addition that seems like an away strategy to me, which is ok, but I prefer a towards for real juice.

So what would it look like if instead of 'protecting against what', it was more of an accomplishing something you want?

But you also would have to decide how badly do you want rapport consciously. I mean if unconsciously they are going along with the program, does it matter that they like you consciously, other than it is nice?

skip

[Simple Guy]

Hi Skip,

The protection would be against reactivity and judgment engendered
by disrespect. Either can be a rapport-killer.

Nothing wrong with phrasing the issue in terms of a towards strategy.
Many people with problems in this area are unaware of their own
reactivity and judgments, and awareness is a prerequisite for remedy
-- whatever the strategy.

"If they are going along with the program" and they continue to do
so, conscious rapport is only a pleasantry. My focus of attention
is heavily weighted towards the unconscious, of course. Conscious
rapport tends to come along for the ride (the likeable guy that I am ;)).
When the two are present, I'm more assured that there won't be
conscious interference in the process, particularly after the session
ends.

[Merlin]

> does it matter that they like you consciously, other than it is nice?

As long as there is sufficient rapport to collect my fee I'm happy :)
I guess that's why I charge first.

Grazing in my pasture is free, but the bull charges ;-)

[EC]

SG,

Humble yet wise comes to mind.

Seems that the wise man enters all conversations Humbly, for if bringing others around to your way of thinking is the goal, why mess it up trying to prove you are right in the beginning. Lay back, be wise, lead em to your way of thinking. Voila, freedom of expression without confrontation !

EC

Ps: Works well to establish this unconsciously in self cause sometimes we just ain't that way naturally and it's damn difficult to do consciously.

[Jack]

SG, if you are doing it right, there is always respect.

Jack

[Simple Guy]

EC,

You brought up humility and the difficulty of establishng this consciously.
Good points.

[Simple Guy]

Jack,

Agreed. However, this begs the question of whether we can do it better.

There is an article that was recently posted to Steve Andreas' website,
that those interested in this topic may want to check out:
www.steveandreas.com/judgement.html (http://www.steveandreas.com/judgement.html) .