visual problem

[hkey]

hello, I have a friend who want to practice nlp, but the problem is he cannot visual or imagine anything when he close his eyes, can you help me?

best regard
hkey

[skip]

If he can pick out people in a crowd that he knows, then he can visualize.

[Soren K (existing)]

hello, I have a friend who want to practice nlp, but the problem is he cannot visual or imagine anything when he close his eyes, can you help me?

best regard
hkey

Can he remember what he was wearing yesterday? How about this evening, (imagine he's got a hot date - in fact imagine s/he is really, really, hot)? How will he decide what to wear, what could be said, what could happen? All so effortless. I like to make pastel art sometimes, draw from the mind to create on the page. Sometimes I have an idea where I want to go, what I want to do. The more rigid I am in my efforts to display the original detail, the less satisfied I am with the outcome. Usually the best results come from the conception and allowing what needs to emerge to emerge... work along side that. You follow me? Maybe your friend should forget about visualising and just use his imagination, let him play with that instead - so much more available than visualization <grr>.

All best,
Soren

[Poodle]

Ask him if he knows what he looks like!

[Terry]

All the above answers are true, yet non of them help you do they?
The same is true of NLP, you can read all about it, and understand what you read, but you still can't DO it.

Let me share a secret with you, a secret that most people know about, but never think of. If something is really valuable to you, you can bet that it costs both money and time to obtain it. I suggest that when you grow up, if you still want to learn, get a job, find an instructor, and practise until you can do it perfectly....
Be generous with your time, and also with your money, and you will enjoy. Try being cheap with either, and you will regret it, and fail to achieve what you hoped for....

[Simon]

Let me share a secret with you, a secret that most people know about, but never think of. If something is really valuable to you, you can bet that it costs both money and time to obtain it. I suggest that when you grow up, if you still want to learn, get a job, find an instructor, and practise until you can do it perfectly....
Be generous with your time, and also with your money, and you will enjoy. Try being cheap with either, and you will regret it, and fail to achieve what you hoped for....

Well Terry, this goes direct to my collection of quotes.. All I have to find out now is how to REALLY integrate this knowledge into my personality..

[Don]

As people have pointed out, your friend can visualize. The problem, therefore, is not with your friend's ability to visualize, but with his beliefs about his ability to visualize.

Since you are involved with NLP, I would suggest that you begin to work with your friend by using your NLP skills to help your friend change his beliefs and reframe the situation from
I can't visualize
to
I don't believe I can visualize
to
I believe I can visualize
to
I visualize very well!

Then continue with any changework you want to do.

Or instead of suggesting that he "visualize," change the word to "imagine." Thus, instead of saying "visualize yourself doing ..." you would say, "imagine yourself doing..." He will automatically visualize whether or not he believes he can do so.

[Connie]

I love this one, which one of my teachers said. Hkey, say this to your friend:

"Pretend you can."

[Merlin]

hello, I have a friend who want to practice nlp, but the problem is he cannot visual or imagine anything when he close his eyes, can you help me?

best regard
hkey

Actually, visualisation isn't necessary at all.

[Soren K (existing)]

hello, I have a friend who want to practice nlp, but the problem is he cannot visual or imagine anything when he close his eyes, can you help me?

best regard
hkey

Closing eyes is not necessary.

[Poodle]

your friend can visualize. He just probably doesn't do it a lot. A fun little exercise that takes less than one minute/night while in bed before turning out the lights is to quickly look at your bed, where the covers, etc. are and close your eyes to remember exactly where everything is. Then open the eyes to "see" how far off or on target you are. It takes a little practice but it does work and works very well.

Shake up the beliefs with: "Oh really. That's interesting to me. How do you know you can't visualize? Are you sure? Are you really sure? What color hair to you have? What color are your eyes? What color was your bedroom when you were ______ years old? What color is your bedroom right now? What color was the first house you lived in? What color is your mother's hair? What color car are you going to buy next? What color was your first car? What colored hair do you prefer for females/males?

I'm betting the bank your "friend" can and will answer all of the above questions easily and correctly and I bet when a child played with the large box of crayons. Cool! What color was your favorite crayon? Pood :)

[hkey]

thx for all your reply!!!

I will try it with my friend.

best regard

hkey

[Terry]

[quote=hkey;52190]thx for all your reply!!!

I will try it with my friend.

best regard

hkey/quote] Please do, you will then learn a valuable lesson first hand. You will learn that those who have spent several years, and thousands of dollars learning were not fools who couldn't learn, but the sensible ones who did things right, and now reap the rewards of their skills.

[Nigel H]

Great comments from Pood etc - and to add to that in addition to Connie's note above for the 'pretend you can' - if when asking them colours of bedroooms etc, as per Poodles note, if you ever get "I don't know" you can say .....

"OK - I know you don't know ................ and if you were to know, what colour would you say?"

Usually this will have the effect of breaking down the resistance and they will 'blurt it out'...

Note - do NOT say ..... BUT if you were to know, use AND !!

Nig

[Poodle]

Thaaattt's Right! Clients are NEVER wrong!