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MrDigital
06-18-2007, 06:59 AM
I set a goal and put it in my timeline for June 30th 2007
Basically after a very serious injury I went downhill fitness and health wise piled on the pounds and by March 7 2006 was weighing in at 20st +..
I used some timeline and submodality work and set a goal of my fighting weight of 15st fighting fit by june 30th 2007.
It's the 18th June I am fighting fit and 15st 9lb, I would imagine by the 30th I will be round the 15st 6lb mark.
Now, I know that this has been a major success for me but it's still a little niggling that I haven't done the 15 that I set out to do.
Do I give myself an extension like dive in my timeline and destroy that goal or what ???
Thanks
Why dont you wait until the 30th and see where you are.
Then calibrate how far you missed your goal, if you do, and evaluate what occurred in the time frame between when you set the goal, and when you got there that might explain the difference.
Did you for example say you wanted to do this safetly and in good health?
Would something like that not allow for a variance in the specific goal and the actual achievement.
And as you go thru time, things change. When you were young you might have wanted to be a cowboy, and chase bad guys, who robbed the bank, when you grew up.
As time went by you modified that goal.
Would you say the modification was a good thing or a bad thing?
skip
Poodle
06-18-2007, 10:38 AM
Ever so sorry to read you have had problems. Have you finished the Master TLT yet? Have you read or listened to The Secret of Creating Your Future by T&A James? And, you still have 13 days to go as Skip mentioned!! Lastly, be very proud of what you have accomplished instead of sad about being a few pounds shy. Be well my friend. Pood
You are doing well. Now wait and see.
Jack
MrDigital
06-30-2007, 04:00 AM
I weighed in this morning at 15st 6lb & fighting fit… :D
I have achieved so far a total weight loss of 6st 1lb or 38kg.
I calibrated as Skip mentioned and it’s funny but I always thought I was going to easily achieve what I was setting out to do in. This, although made it seem easier did enable me to relax on the more than the odd occasion. My love for white wine and fine dining definitely got in the way with a few hangovers to boot. However, my outlook changed in many ways and I never once came off track to the extent of giving up. This goal was mine and I was going to get it.
After a while I started to realise that not only could I easily achieve my goal but also I had so many limiting beliefs that had been hindering me all my life – (unbelievable). So I have missed my goal by 6lb but thoroughly enjoyed the ride (with a cherry on top).
Now it’s time to reset my new goal and get that six-pack I never before believed was possible. My self belief has now become my ally from within and life is fantastic. I put up a post before saying I was ill all the time and suffered with excersise induced migraine (Not any more).
I have always believed that you can have anything you want in life you just have to want it enough to go out and get it. Weight was the one thing that I was always doing battle with and I have learned so much in the process..
To anyone thinking or struggling with anything:
‘Self-belief is your secret ally. You've just got to be able to turn it on, boost it when you need it most. It’s part of the armoury of all people who achieve great things. To win at anything in life, your greatest battle is with yourself. Your most powerful enemy is within. Your greatest ally is there also. The person who has the weapon to make you win or lose is you. Your weapon is your mind. Your mental approach makes you strong or weak, tough or flabby. Conquering yourself is the ultimate challenge.
Great self-believers have the edge. They carry within a formidable advantage over the average person. They know how to dig deep and muster additional resources and back-up when called to. They never lose. They always live to fight another day. They always come through. Even if you identify yourself as one of the great self-believers, you’ll still be eager to run a check on your current levels to ensure you’re in peak condition! Self-belief is your secret ally. You've just got to be able to turn it on, boost it when you need it most.’
A very happy & grateful
MrD
Poodle
06-30-2007, 12:15 PM
Cool going and what's a few pounds in the grand scheme!! You are ever so right. NLP is about FREEDOM and how to be, have or do whatever we want. TLT is just a neat combination of NLP and hypnosis. I'm very, very happy for you!! Pood :D
Merlin
07-01-2007, 09:14 AM
Go to it!
Be successful!!
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MrDigital
07-01-2007, 02:05 PM
It's the 18th June I am fighting fit and 15st 9lb, I would imagine by the 30th I will be round the 15st 6lb mark.
How did I guess :confused:
Connie
07-03-2007, 05:34 PM
I'm copying you, Mr. D! :D I've set a weight loss goal today into my timeline. I've been hesitant and somewhat leery of doing that, as I've been pleased with my success simply doing "straight weight loss" with hypnotic suggestive help. But, now I'm giving it a whirl. I am letting go of 20 pounds (American pounds) in the next 9-1/2 to 10 weeks. I've given myself a date of September 7th.
I created a hypnotic cd for myself today which incorporates the timeline work into it. And listened to it!
THEN, I was at the store today, eye-ing bags of potato chips--big 4th of July sales display. (140 calories per ounce serving). I felt the "pull." (wanting them) Suddenly this voice came to me: "What do you think you're doing?" And I walked away from the potato chips! :D I also felt this "pull" to the candy aisle and was wanting some red licorice, which was also advertised on sale. There wasn't any on the shelf!! Sold out. Lucky me! So I didn't buy any. I think the universe is helping me, conveniently arranged that my desired junk food was not available at the moment I was feeling weak.
Poodle
07-03-2007, 08:22 PM
what you really wanted was ice cream! Would not 20 MORE make you rather thin? You're looking pretty darn good as it is and should be very proud of yourself. I bought GR's EKG Induction. I hope it was worth the money. A very expensive puppy! It was on KL's site. Did you like it? Pood
Connie
07-03-2007, 10:03 PM
Geoff's EKG induction? I LOVE it! And I intend to use it. For my shows. It's theatrical and visually dramatic. When we practiced it during the training, I loved the "sleep now" and clicking my fingers thing--and it got a powerful response. :D
Poodle
07-04-2007, 10:06 AM
One is not allowed to teach it however, I thought from reading about it that it would be wonderful for demonstrations. Guess I was right. Thanks!! :)
Henrik
07-04-2007, 11:53 AM
First off, congratulations MrDigital. Be proud of yourself, well done!
Connie, you can do it! You seem like the type of person who sets herself a goal and go after it mercylessly. And enjoy it. Competitors in fitness and bodybuilding often have a goal of 1 to 2 pounds of weight reduction a week the last periode before a competition. I'm actually trying to gain some weight, 10 pounds is my goal, and I have set a date of September 6th which is my birthday. September 7th is the birthday of Cecilie, a girl everyone (at least the boys) had a crush on in elementary school. "And so" you might wonder ;) Well I just came to think of it.
If you haven't read "My voice will go with you: The Teaching Tales of Milton H. Erickson" (Sidney Rosen) I think you will like it. It contains amongst many types of tales stories of Erickson helping people to lose weight and is a wonderful read imo.
Henrik
Poodle
07-05-2007, 10:38 AM
Milton could be a little blunt at times, "I know why you are fat. You eat too much." Could be just utilization though. Pood :confused:
Succinct and to the point, Milton.
Jack
Connie
07-10-2007, 07:51 AM
It's one week since I plunked the weight loss goal into my timeline---down 5 pounds! :D
Well done, C.:) Go as low as you want and no lower.
Jack
Henrik
09-07-2007, 02:18 AM
Hi, Connie.
I was thinking about you today. Hopefully you are right there where you wish to be. Or in the near vicinity. Or in the interesting process of getting there.
You go Connie!
Henrik
Connie
09-07-2007, 03:59 AM
Or in the interesting process of getting there.
You go Connie!
Henrik
That's the one! :) Thank you, Henrik!! I didn't meet my goal. Hubby and I worked on that tonight, with NLP. There was a "wall." Looked like brick. In my way. About a foot thick, not too tall, I could see over it. Obviously, I wasn't fully congruent in wanting what I thought I wanted. He led me around the wall, and now I'm on the other side of it, in a beautiful park-like setting. Moving forward now.
I've got a new goal. 10 pounds by Sept. 22nd.
Oh, there was also a picture of me. Just the torso. FAT. Wearing a blue sweater. We pushed that picture far far away. :) In fact, right now, I'm going to take a cigarette lighter (in my mind, I don't smoke), and burn up that picture. Just like I'm going to burn up the calories. I don't want it to even exist.
It's a great idea to push that picture far, far away. Even better, burn up that picture.
Just one thing...do you have a new picture to fill the metaphoric hole, the emptiness, where that picture once "lived?" If not, what do you think is going to fill up that emptiness for you?
Is it not possible that even though you will push away and burn the picture, something the unconscious is familiar and comfortable with--that same picture or something like it--will return? Perhaps, beside getting rid of what is unwanted, it's also a good idea to introduce what IS wanted.
Unwanted picture of you in a blue sweater=pink elephant in the puzzle of "don't think of a pink elephant." You have to think of it before you can not think of it.
Connie
09-07-2007, 12:35 PM
Yes, Don, lots of new pictures. :) The sensurround mental pictures of me at my "ideal weight." I've been filling myself with those for 500+ days now.
Henrik
09-08-2007, 10:42 AM
Yes, Don, lots of new pictures. :) The sensurround mental pictures of me at my "ideal weight." I've been filling myself with those for 500+ days now.
Maybe you could keep a tiny copy of that "fat" picture in black and white on a piece of drawing paper in your pocket. It is hard to be "fat" in a two dimensional world ;)
Maybe add a green apple down in the corner ;). It is very interesting following your transformation and journey Connie. Great work. You truly are an inspiration. Equally great that you now help others as well.
Henrik
Connie
09-09-2007, 03:55 AM
Thank you, Henrik! I like sharing my experiences and thoughts with you all here. After all, we are all members of the same cult, are we not? :)
Sometimes I just sort of forget about "my transformations," and other times I wake up in amazement. I am changing. I said it tonight to my hubby: I said: my power is growing.
Henrik
09-10-2007, 02:29 AM
Sometimes I like to think about it not so much in terms of transformation or change, but discovery. I'm discovering more about myself. And then some more.
For me there is a slight difference between change and discovery :) Discovery gives me the freedom of choice. Choice to change if I so wish to.
Henrik
For me there is a slight difference between change and discovery :) Discovery gives me the freedom of choice. Choice to change if I so wish to.
Henrik
That is a useful distinction, but there is an element of chicken and egg in what one means by choice. Choice is based on what you (or anyone else) knows in the moment, but you don't know what you might need to know before you know it and are able to make a choice, if you see what I mean. Far more important is the flexibility to understand that when you make a choice to change or not change that choice is not a permanent fixture unless it continues to be useful.
Or in other words what you mean by discovery is in a permanent state of evolution and your choices are continually affected by it.
Jack
Henrik
09-10-2007, 04:43 AM
Choice is based on what you (or anyone else) knows in the moment, but you don't know what you might need to know before you know it and are able to make a choice
Hi, Jack.
I think I see what you mean. In any moment you never know more than you know. That goes for anyone and everyone. So you might not know what you need to know to have the choice to make the desired change. You might not even know what the desired change is. But if you know this, that you might not know or that you don't know, hopefully you know that you can learn to know. If so, you have at least the choice to learn to change.
Far more important is the flexibility to understand that when you make a choice to change or not change that choice is not a permanent fixture unless it continues to be useful.
This is why you, the therapists, will always have your hands full. To teach this.
Henrik
Connie
09-10-2007, 07:56 AM
I love words. To me, changing is the same as evolving. It could also be de-volving I suppose. :p I've never applied the word "discovery" to my personal growth, it doesn't seem to resonate as powerfully with me.
Problem with a moment Henrik, is that once it's here it's gone so although you may think you don't know something as the moment passes so does the knowledge change. And as the knowledge changes so may the desire so I think you are right when you say that you don't even know what the desired change is, but I would rather put it that you don't consciously know what the desired change might be and even less what the outcome might be. It is what I meant by permanent evolution.
It makes life exciting for all of us.:)
Jack
Poodle
09-10-2007, 04:32 PM
Eagles soar over walls. Pood ;)