CoreyWhite
01-07-2007, 01:23 PM
Some people believe in the power of suggestion. The theory is that the subconscious mind has a natural way of reacting
positively to almost anything it is handed. They say that the unconscious mind can't distinguish between fact and fiction,
and if you speak to a person in vague, non-specific terms it doesn't matter if you are giving them positive or negative
feedback or even if they believe what you are saying. But even though we all have an open minded side to ourselves, we don't
function as transcendental zombies when given suggestions. Just try giving most people a simple suggestion like, "Do you
think that it is possible... blah?" And regardless of what you ask them they will naturally feel skeptical of it, unless it
is so ordinary they laugh at how daft you are.
Well I've been studying Neural Linguistic Programming and discovered real ways of communication, which actually cause
reactions in people similar to hypnosis. I've found that these TOOLS are wonderful ways to avoid conflict, resolve tense
situations, and get the reactions you want from the people who you want to notice you.
The trick is a study in language with the word because. They found that when asking people for assistance, you will be
declined the majority of the time unless you provide a reason why you need the help. The example given in the study took
place in an office where they had a copy machine. They asked the person in front of them in the line at the copier if they
could use the machine first, and were always told no. But when they invented even the dumbest reason like, "Because I'm in a
rush". The unwitting participants in the study allowed them to cut in line 100% of the time.
But that is just the icing on the cake with NLP. In reality if people hear you overusing the word "Because", it gets you no
where in life. The word becomes a button that you are pushing when you talk to people, and it then becomes just another
useless word you have in your vocabulary. The art of NLP involves suggestion in a since because it is actually easier to
offer explanations for what you are trying to communicate without using the word "because".
People are rationalists at heart. We are all looking to find meaning and explanation in our lives. And when the average
person is communicating with you, they have such a huge ego that they take the meaning and explanation in their statements
for granted. But when an intelligent communicator speaks, they offer explanations within their statements. Without anyone
even noticing that they are getting to the point of the discussion.
It doesn't matter how vague an explanation you offer a person, as long as it is positive. And you can even fill up the
conversation with ins and outs that they might disagree with, as long as the emphasis is positive. It really seems that as
long as people have the option of believing you for your word they will take it as fact. And by giving them other options to
choose from, besides just one explanation, they will help you lead them towards resolutions and agreements. You just need to
be able to examine your own motives, and the real whysabout what you are saying. And once you do that, even if you tell
someone the exact opposite of what they want to hear, when you tell them why you are saying it and how you really feel they
understand that you still care about them.
Because there isn't a gift that shows someone you love them more, than explaining to them all the reasons you want them to be
a part of your life. And we are all looking for the answers and explanations in our relationships!
Trust me on this one, it works 100% of the time because people aren't aware you are doing anything differently. The only
limitation is your ability to use this miraculous tool, instead of only making statements you expect people to agree with
because you want them to. So just learn how to help other people digest and rationalization your own thinking process in a
friendly way. Balancing it with other options and suggestion.
You should find that once you externalize your own motivations in conversation you will feel it is easier to co-operate with
your partner and friends. When you stop and think about it they may have an even better idea than you, and that's always a
good thing to listen to. The doors only have to be opened to talking about things rationally in order to have those types of
conversations.
People shouldn't even notice you are talking to them any differently if you do it right. It should feel totally natural.
That's why this NLP technique is kept secret. If common people found out about it then it wouldn't be as effective.
You could also try using these techniques on yourself, just by talking to yourself out loud. It won't take long before
examining your own explanations become habitual to your thinking process, and you should start to function very differently.
You will start making deliberate choices about the things you have felt powerless over in the past. But you have to
strengthen that part of your thinking process by using the technique deliberately in real conversation (even if you are just
talking to yourself).
The old idea that beliefs create our reality is really true. But a belief is nothing more than an explanation. So by just
being mindful of the way you rationalize your behavior you are taking deliberate control over your life. Just remember to
make an effort at using the powerful tool of explanation.
positively to almost anything it is handed. They say that the unconscious mind can't distinguish between fact and fiction,
and if you speak to a person in vague, non-specific terms it doesn't matter if you are giving them positive or negative
feedback or even if they believe what you are saying. But even though we all have an open minded side to ourselves, we don't
function as transcendental zombies when given suggestions. Just try giving most people a simple suggestion like, "Do you
think that it is possible... blah?" And regardless of what you ask them they will naturally feel skeptical of it, unless it
is so ordinary they laugh at how daft you are.
Well I've been studying Neural Linguistic Programming and discovered real ways of communication, which actually cause
reactions in people similar to hypnosis. I've found that these TOOLS are wonderful ways to avoid conflict, resolve tense
situations, and get the reactions you want from the people who you want to notice you.
The trick is a study in language with the word because. They found that when asking people for assistance, you will be
declined the majority of the time unless you provide a reason why you need the help. The example given in the study took
place in an office where they had a copy machine. They asked the person in front of them in the line at the copier if they
could use the machine first, and were always told no. But when they invented even the dumbest reason like, "Because I'm in a
rush". The unwitting participants in the study allowed them to cut in line 100% of the time.
But that is just the icing on the cake with NLP. In reality if people hear you overusing the word "Because", it gets you no
where in life. The word becomes a button that you are pushing when you talk to people, and it then becomes just another
useless word you have in your vocabulary. The art of NLP involves suggestion in a since because it is actually easier to
offer explanations for what you are trying to communicate without using the word "because".
People are rationalists at heart. We are all looking to find meaning and explanation in our lives. And when the average
person is communicating with you, they have such a huge ego that they take the meaning and explanation in their statements
for granted. But when an intelligent communicator speaks, they offer explanations within their statements. Without anyone
even noticing that they are getting to the point of the discussion.
It doesn't matter how vague an explanation you offer a person, as long as it is positive. And you can even fill up the
conversation with ins and outs that they might disagree with, as long as the emphasis is positive. It really seems that as
long as people have the option of believing you for your word they will take it as fact. And by giving them other options to
choose from, besides just one explanation, they will help you lead them towards resolutions and agreements. You just need to
be able to examine your own motives, and the real whysabout what you are saying. And once you do that, even if you tell
someone the exact opposite of what they want to hear, when you tell them why you are saying it and how you really feel they
understand that you still care about them.
Because there isn't a gift that shows someone you love them more, than explaining to them all the reasons you want them to be
a part of your life. And we are all looking for the answers and explanations in our relationships!
Trust me on this one, it works 100% of the time because people aren't aware you are doing anything differently. The only
limitation is your ability to use this miraculous tool, instead of only making statements you expect people to agree with
because you want them to. So just learn how to help other people digest and rationalization your own thinking process in a
friendly way. Balancing it with other options and suggestion.
You should find that once you externalize your own motivations in conversation you will feel it is easier to co-operate with
your partner and friends. When you stop and think about it they may have an even better idea than you, and that's always a
good thing to listen to. The doors only have to be opened to talking about things rationally in order to have those types of
conversations.
People shouldn't even notice you are talking to them any differently if you do it right. It should feel totally natural.
That's why this NLP technique is kept secret. If common people found out about it then it wouldn't be as effective.
You could also try using these techniques on yourself, just by talking to yourself out loud. It won't take long before
examining your own explanations become habitual to your thinking process, and you should start to function very differently.
You will start making deliberate choices about the things you have felt powerless over in the past. But you have to
strengthen that part of your thinking process by using the technique deliberately in real conversation (even if you are just
talking to yourself).
The old idea that beliefs create our reality is really true. But a belief is nothing more than an explanation. So by just
being mindful of the way you rationalize your behavior you are taking deliberate control over your life. Just remember to
make an effort at using the powerful tool of explanation.