View Full Version : Has my therapy failed?
curiousone123
12-01-2006, 04:57 AM
About 2 years ago a very tragic event occured in my life. Ever since the day, I have thought and blamed myself 24/7 over the event. My life is pretty much destroyed since it happend. I have not been happy a single day every since.
Earlier this year, I went to see a hypnotherapist about it. I saw him about 6 times. He was professional and very nice to me, I trust him. We did some hypnosis work, I don´t remember exactly what was said during the hypnosis acutally, but the induction used was eye fixation.
After the last time I saw him, things were definitely not GOOD, but at least better than before. However, now, a few months later, things are pretty darn bad again, the constant thinking about the event is back.
The question is - has my therapy been a failure? I mean, the symptoms are still there and they are pretty damn bad. But maybe that's all that can be achieved through hypnosis, making the symptoms at least a little less strong than before. Or how good can I get by hypnotherapy? Fully good, regardless of how bad I feel about the event? Ie. What should I expect?
When people ask "can hypnosis be used to forget", the common response is that it is unnecessary, since hypnosis can remove the bad emotions associated with the memory. However, my bad emotions are very much still there. Can these emotions really be FULLY removed?
If so, what do you suggest I tell my therapist? I really like him and do not want to change therapist unless you guys really consider him incompetent due to the above.
Connie
12-01-2006, 06:28 AM
I think you should expect more and get more. 6 visits and no change? Do you want to change? Is there some benefit to you from dwelling on this unpleasantness? Your life is not "destroyed." That's just your perception of things, and perceptions can be altered. I'd pick a new hypnotherapist, one with an NLP background as well--and continue. Good luck!
I would say that it has failed so far.
I would suggest you try www.emofree.com download the free manual and follow the instructions.
Wont change your history, but will lessen the 'sting'.
cheers,
skip
Terry (existing)
12-01-2006, 08:39 AM
I would say it is obvious that therapy has failed, which is what you asked. On the other hand, we have no idea why since we were not present, nor would it help if we had details, since it would not be possible to ask questions ourselves. Find another practitioner since your faith in this one is shaken, and he is unlikely to be able to benifit you further no matter how "nice" he is. Being nice won't cut it in therapy, being skilled and imaginative will. If no significant results are seen after two sessions at most, there is a failure in the making, even though a few more sessions may be required to ensure the problem is completely gone for good....
COACH4YOU
12-01-2006, 12:47 PM
NLP teaches us that there is no failure only feedback. I ask you if the feedback is getting you the results you were searching for, and if not why would you continue to do the same thing over and over and expect different results? You therapist may have succeeded but not at the goal you are looking to achieve. I would suggest that either you find another therapist or give your therapist another chance, but make sure that who ever you see next is clear about what you want. I suggest that you explain that your number one goal is to change/modify the association you have to a specific memory (NLP works best for this.) The objective is not to delete these memories because whether you realize this or not there is always a benefit to every experience. Explain that you need to feel a significant difference in that session or you will go to someone else. IF they try to convince you that this will require many visits before you feel any difference then RUN out that place and continue looking for a good seasoned therapist. Trust me, you don’t have to live with the pain.
tdiamond
12-01-2006, 01:02 PM
You said your life was destroyed.. do you believe this?
Is it necessary for you to live in the guilt/shame and if so how long do you see it as needed before you can get on with healing and happiness. ( penance)?
IS it the therapist responsibility to heal you or yours to heal yourself with assistance?
Connie
12-02-2006, 07:24 AM
Coach, the feedback should be for the therapist, not the poster here. It's not his failure as much as it is the therapist's.
Connie: It seems to me that they could both use some feedback, and the feedback that coach gave was a decent attempt to help the OP keep making progress.
Connie
12-05-2006, 08:41 PM
Tyku, there's some ambiguity here with the word "feedback." In my post I'm refering to "feedback vs. failure" and how that applies to the OP and the therapist. You're using "feedback" more in the sense of advice or another approach to the problem, as you mention Coach's feedback. These aren't the same meanings. I liked Coach's advice.
Hello curious,
Do not confuse your liking for the therapist with the outcome you are trying to achieve.
I agree with Skip. The therapy has failed since there is no noticeable effect. This happens occasionally and rather than trying to place blame it would be better if you expected a complete or at the very least nearly complete removal of these unwanted emotions, and you may not get that with your current therapist.
And yes, unwanted emotions related to events can be completely and permanently removed.
Jack
solaris152000
12-09-2006, 03:02 PM
The therapy has failed, that's pretty obvious.
Personally, if i get something and it doesnt work I take it back, I don't think asking for your money back should be out the the question here.
I can't help but wonder why it failed? Maybe there are some deeper issues than this guy can deal with.
Melior
12-19-2006, 12:11 PM
I have like a full proofed method of dealing with any trauma no matter the size, even impending death and it's like insanely easy to do but I can't be bothered explaining it.
Anyway since you can't remember and you feel ****ty again once you stopped going, it seems more like the hypnotherapist perhaps but some sort of addiction command in their or some ****.
Also every time I see therapist I also see, the rapist, makes me laugh.
Terry (existing)
12-19-2006, 06:05 PM
I have like a full proofed method of dealing with any trauma no matter the size, even impending death and it's like insanely easy to do but I can't be bothered explaining it.
Anyway since you can't remember and you feel ****ty again once you stopped going, it seems more like the hypnotherapist perhaps but some sort of addiction command in their or some ****.
Also every time I see therapist I also see, the rapist, makes me laugh. Ah yes, I can understand why you can't be bothered to explain a "full proofed" method but what I don;t understand, is why you bothered to post here since your sense of humour does indeed seem out of place on a board such as this, and your knowledge of our subject matter is obviously a pretence.
Not worth bothering with, Terry.
Jack