left or right?

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Hi, Im new here. Just wanna ask u guys a question since u r all much experienced in this area. Are there any difference in letting ppl sit in ur left side and in ur right side when u talk to them? does it affect the result of conversation or not? Many thanks.

[Terry (existing)]

Hi, Im new here. Just wanna ask u guys a question since u r all much experienced in this area. Are there any difference in letting ppl sit in ur left side and in ur right side when u talk to them? does it affect the result of conversation or not? Many thanks. I am sitting here laughting my fool head off as my imagination has me seeing myself riding my motorcycle, and having someone attempt to sit on either side of me.... Yes, I did once own a motor cycle, until I decided that comfort came first, and it was no fun riding in the open in Canada. However, yes it does make a difference, and on this side of the Atlantic it is best to have the person on your right, while in the UK it is better to have them on your left. Hope that answers your question.

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I am sitting here laughting my fool head off as my imagination has me seeing myself riding my motorcycle, and having someone attempt to sit on either side of me.... Yes, I did once own a motor cycle, until I decided that comfort came first, and it was no fun riding in the open in Canada. However, yes it does make a difference, and on this side of the Atlantic it is best to have the person on your right, while in the UK it is better to have them on your left. Hope that answers your question.


Thanx. Terry. So its better to have them on ur left since Im in Australia, is it right? And would u pls tell me whats the better for?

[Connie]

I remember a sociological study I read a long time ago...the details are hazy, but I THINK this was the gist of it. In terms of "affecting the conversation," it was a study of comfort. Who felt more comfortable sitting where in relation to others?

My memory is that women were found to feel more comfortable sitting across from each other, face to face, and that men felt more comfortable side by side.

As far as left/right, I feel more comfortable talking to people sitting on my right hand side. Don't know WHY, though. :) Does it have to do with handedness?

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I remember a sociological study I read a long time ago...the details are hazy, but I THINK this was the gist of it. In terms of "affecting the conversation," it was a study of comfort. Who felt more comfortable sitting where in relation to others?

My memory is that women were found to feel more comfortable sitting across from each other, face to face, and that men felt more comfortable side by side.

As far as left/right, I feel more comfortable talking to people sitting on my right hand side. Don't know WHY, though. :) Does it have to do with handedness?


If the left/right side of eye movement works it way, then it must be difference between the two position u r. One uses more of ur right side eye movement and the other opposite.

[Connie]

In thinking about it, I think I gave the results of that study backwards. Men like across, and women like side by side. *I* like across best (contrary to those results), but of course, I'm not like other people. :D

[Terry (existing)]

Thanx. Terry. So its better to have them on ur left since Im in Australia, is it right? And would u pls tell me whats the better for? Lord knows what is better for you, but for me, I like to be in the driver's seat at all times, so you would be on my left in Australia, yes....

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Lord knows what is better for you, but for me, I like to be in the driver's seat at all times, so you would be on my left in Australia, yes....


Sounds make sense

[Jimr1]

Hi, Im new here. Just wanna ask u guys a question since u r all much experienced in this area. Are there any difference in letting ppl sit in ur left side and in ur right side when u talk to them? does it affect the result of conversation or not? Many thanks.

It can but it depends on your goal. in the context of influence,more advanced NLP'ers know that when you elicit such things as good decision/bad decision, or who's a person's best friend/worst enemy is? those questions elicit visual "frames" in a person's field of view and when you calibrate those those and anchor them it give the conversation new meaning

Jim

[skip]

Everyone 'stores' their experience in 3d space all around them.

Thats because your head is too small, to fit it all in.

You have a specific location in 3d space, that you 'store' people you trust, another for people you dont trust, another for things that no longer apply to you, another for things that are true, etc.

Now if I want to influence you, I certainly dont want to situate myself in the same space as 'people you dont trust'. It would be very difficult to overcome the unconscious feelings of mistrust you would have, every time you looked at me.

I would find out 'covertly' where you 'store' people you trust, and locate myself there.

So in answer to your question, "Yes it does matter, but since most people arent aware of it, and even some who are, dont know how to use it well, I wouldnt worry too much about it.

Unless you want to be more powerful in your communication ...

skip

[Poodle]

it works so well in a training.

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which brain stores the rational memeory? right brain or left brain? Im a bot confused now. If from my right eye, I can see the bright future not from memory.Does that mean my left brain work?

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Everyone 'stores' their experience in 3d space all around them.

Thats because your head is too small, to fit it all in.

You have a specific location in 3d space, that you 'store' people you trust, another for people you dont trust, another for things that no longer apply to you, another for things that are true, etc.

Now if I want to influence you, I certainly dont want to situate myself in the same space as 'people you dont trust'. It would be very difficult to overcome the unconscious feelings of mistrust you would have, every time you looked at me.

I would find out 'covertly' where you 'store' people you trust, and locate myself there.

So in answer to your question, "Yes it does matter, but since most people arent aware of it, and even some who are, dont know how to use it well, I wouldnt worry too much about it.

Unless you want to be more powerful in your communication ...

skip

Hi, SKIP,

Thank you for your reply and explanation.

Would you pls tell me where is the 3D space?

Many thanks.

S

[skip]

Imagine yourself living inside layer after layer of soccer balls, and instead of sewed panels they consist of TV screens.

Havent you ever wondered or noticed that when you are searching for words, or thoughts you look odd 'in the distance'. You are looking for a visual that is located in a specific place, somewhere around your head. This is true for everything you access. And inside your head isnt big enough, thats why you have it projected out side of your head.

And specific things are stored in specific places, and they dont move, unless something about them changes or someone skilled moves them for you.

Try it yourself.

Think of people you like. Where did your eyes flicker to, in order to faqcilitate accessing that?

Think of everything you are sure of.

Now if that didnt rock your world, you didnt understand it.

skip

[Terry (existing)]

There you go, Skip just answered another problem we often have, in that we resent people crowding our space! We feel uncomfortable because they are bending our aura, and distorting our memories. We find it difficult to think when in a crowd also for that same reason. See how much you learn on this board?:D


This should not be seen as an attempt to reprogram anyone......

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It makes sense.

[watl1]

You can also try and experiment that I was taught to find out if you're left or right brained.

Sit in the middle of 2 people and have each one simultaneously say 3 different basic statements in each of your ears e.g the black cat walked down the path.

At the end, see what side you heard the most from - the left ear is controlled by the right brain (creativity and imagination) and the right ear is controlled by the left (logic).

[Five]

I'm left eye dominant and prefer most people to be on my left. I guess because I can see them better. People I really trust can be on my right, but I stilll prefer them to be on the left. With a new acquaintance on my right, I am more likely to be very reserved and formal. You might even say on guard. I feel more in control if they are on the left.

[smiley]

You can also try and experiment that I was taught to find out if you're left or right brained.

Sit in the middle of 2 people and have each one simultaneously say 3 different basic statements in each of your ears e.g the black cat walked down the path.

At the end, see what side you heard the most from - the left ear is controlled by the right brain (creativity and imagination) and the right ear is controlled by the left (logic).


Thats the one I'd like to know. Is it the same as the eye? The left eye is controlled by the right brain and the right brain is controlled by the left brain.
So when people ask me to sit on his/her left side, what result they want from changing the sitting pattern? Thank you. :=))

[watl1]

Yes, right eye/left brain, left eye/right brain. So if you wanted to appeal to someone's emotional side, you would look them in the left eye, and the right eye if you wanted to appeal to their logical side.

I haven't really looked into the results from sitting to a person's left side. From what I understand, however, is that sound would travel into their left ear faster and go into the right side of the brain.

[Mentalius]

Find whats most comfortable for you - having people to your right, left, in fornt and behind. Use for yourself what´s more comfortable.

Then it´s just not about you, but you have a basis to ask a client to try out what seems most comfortable for her/him, and make a choice.

You win the most by being the flexible one.

[Don]

Watl1, why do you assume that emotions or logic have anything to do with the brain? Wouldn't it be better to work with the mind?

[Poodle]

I think that one just went OVER about everyone's "MIND" -- ROFL!!!!!! Pood