How the hell did I do this?

[PaddyMcNasty]

The other night I modified a memory. Or my association with the memory or whatever, I'm not sure. Sorry if this is a bit long, tried to keep it as short as possible without missing out anything important.

[Background info, can skip if you want] I've used CBT and mindfulness in the past to overcome my depression. Since last summer I've been reading spiritual books and articles to keep me on an even keel (mostly buddhist - currently reading The Art of Happiness by The Dalai Lama and Howard C Cutler). I had looked at NLP briefly but felt it was difficult to relate to myself. So I'd say I have more control over my own mind than average person but no expert and almost completely clueless with NLP.

So this memory. The drummer in my band has another band. We played a gig together and afterwards I was hanging out with the other band's singer (who I'd met once before) and a girl who came to the gig (who I was meeting for the first time). She was flirting with both of us but when I look at it objectively she was obviously only flirting with me to make the other guy jealous. We were both getting a lift from the drummer and when it was time to go the other band's singer hugged the girl goodbye. I did the same but from her body language it was not welcome. At this point I realised they knew each other and I was never really being flirted with. I felt very embarassed and every time I think about it since I cringe big time.

The other night I thought about it again and cringed again. Then something odd happened, I decided I was going to change this memory so it didn't have the huge cringe factor. And I did and it worked, it's now just a bland memory with no emotional attachment. It wasn't until the next day that I realised that I have no idea how to do this. At the time it didn't seem like I was doing anything unusual, it never even occurred to me that I can't do it. Of course I now can't remember how I did it, I remember a feeling of going "under the hood" and changing stuff but that's as specific as it gets.

So what do you think? Not sure if it's NLP or even related to it but I reckon it's a good place to start my research. I was near sleep at the time so I was possibly highly suggestible, in a trance or something? I want to get to the bottom of this as I feel it could be extremely useful if I can master it, especially if it's something I can do naturally.

[Connie]

Go take a live NLP training from Licensed Trainers (tm) and you'll learn how to maneover "under the hood" successfully any time you want to, and you'll know what you're doing, consciously.

What you describe is very much NLP. You found a more resourceful state of mind/body (bland feeling) and replaced an unwanted state of mind/body (cringe feeling). The memory is intact, the negative feeling in you is gone. That's NLP.

[skip]

Isnt it nice, of you, to have helped this girl, in obtainin her outcome. And a stranger too. You must be exceptionally generous.

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[Poodle]

is just a tiny, tiny little piece of NLP -- changing nonresourceful to resourceful. Good job! Can you possibly imagine what you are capable of doing with yourself and others when you learn ALL of NLP(tm) and definitely from Licensed Trainers as Connie mentioned? Ohh YES!!!!!!!! The world moves.

And, as Skip mentioned, you will always need to have a positive outcome for everyone in all situations at the end before you begin to do anything..... and in the scenario you presented that means you, the other guy, the lady and both bands as wholes, the environment, your family and your friends. We call it an ECOLOGY check and if it is not ecological, then it is not done or if done, just plain WRONG! -- Small lesson here.


Be well~Pood