Need help getting over material loss

[Jericho]

Recently, I've lost a good amount of files from my harddrive that were of sentimental value to me, after an unfortunate computer crash. Now, I'm rebuilding for the second time in 2 months, as a similar crash had already occured not so very long ago.

Not only is the pain of having to rebuild again painful enough in itself, I also keep getting reminded of the things I lost in the course of actually rebuilding from scratch. This may sound less dramatic as it is, considering we're dealing with "just computer files and nothing genuinely important in life", but I think everybody here understands that if you put a lot of time and energy into a certain something - no matter if it's the design for a cure for world hunger, or just a bunch of computer files that you've accumulated over the years - the pain of losing all the time and energy put into that thing all at once, becomes almost unbearable.

Like I said, I keep getting reminded of the things that I lost because I keep missing stuff that I'm looking for, only to realize it has been deleted beyond repair. So the problem here is that, even when I get my spirits up for a while with optimistic thoughts and some slight NLP'ing (at which I'm unfortunately not yet very good), the minute I encounter a file missing, I fall back to ground zero on the happiness-scale.

This is starting to really affect my thoughts and daily happiness, and I want to get it over with. It's not like I gave up; I'm still building and I know that within some time, I'll have recovered from the loss and I'll have something to new to be proud of. But until that time comes, I don't wanna spend my days being sore and depressed.


Is there anything someone here can recommend doing, perhaps a specific NLP technique or even just giving advice for life, something that's worked for you in the past with a similar situation?
I'm not gonna let this thing get the better of me, but I could really appreciate the help. I've been loving NLP for several months now, at least, and I know how powerful it is and what it's capable of.

Any help will be greatly appreciated :)

-- J.

[Terry (existing)]

Is there anything someone here can recommend doing, perhaps a specific NLP technique or even just giving advice for life, something that's worked for you in the past with a similar situation?
I'm not gonna let this thing get the better of me, but I could really appreciate the help. I've been loving NLP for several months now, at least, and I know how powerful it is and what it's capable of.

Any help will be greatly appreciated :)

-- J. Well, could be you are just a dumb as I am, since this has happened to me several times, and I know a little of the annoyance except that nothing I lost was of great importance to me, so I was just annoyed that I lost a few good jokes I was saving. Like me, you have failed twice to save what was important to you on disc or whatever. Perhaps you need to learn that lesson from life as you request? Now, you ask how you can overcome the annoyance and heartache you are feeling, but limit it to suggestions regarding NLP which you tell us you have little skill in. I am forced to ask why NLP? Take the computer to a store, get them to remove the memory, and replace it temporarily while they search and save what they can from the old memory, and then you will avoid the annoyance, and eventually have a larger memory to work with, or perhaps one that can be used to save information separately. I am no computer buff, but I do know that this can be done to avoid saving to disc. I also know it will be cheaper that seeking help from one of us since our charges are higher, and you obviously can;t do it alone.

[Poodle]

You do realize there are people whose profession it is to restore lost data to a pc. This, of course, costs money but so would NLP sessions. Reminds me of a friend, an author, and his grandchild came in and deleted his latest novel from his pc. He did find someone to restore it.

You also might inquire as to why you are having computer crashes? Maybe time to upgrade?

Pood :p

[Don]

Master, you are blind. How did you know there was a grasshopper at my feet?
Kwai Chang Caine, you are sighted. How is it you did not know of the grasshopper?
You are wise master. Do you have any other wisdom for me?
Yes Grasshopper. Although this will not help you in the past, here is something that will help you in the future:

Always remember to back up your files!

[Jericho]

Heh, well I guess if you put it that way...

Maybe all I really need to do is learn from the situation. My idea of trying to use NLP to "help" myself came from my great respect and interest for the teachings that are contained in it. I sort of developed the idea that it could really fix anything. And I still think it does even now. But your replies made me think that it might now always be necessary to fix these kinds of problems with a hardcore approach like NLP, when they can be fixed with simpler, more worldy solutions.

I guess I'll go take the harddrive to a computer store and see what they can do with it. Best not to touch it too much myself :D

Thanks for the replies, guys ;)

[skip]

Jericho,

It is a ***** isnt it?

All that stuff gone.

100 years from now, how much difference exactly will it make?

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[Merlin]

Files don't disappear from a crash.
They are still there and can be recovered.

Buy 2 drives.
Always copy from one drive to another.
When one fails, your second drive has all the data.

There are NLP and hypnosis techniques for your emotions, but they don't work very well across web boards :(

You could see a hypnotherapist, but you could spend the money recovering the files.