How can you tell??

[Unregistered]

Is there any way you can tell if someone has been hypnotised?

I fear that my soon to be ex-husband is having my children hypnotised to act out against me. I have seen all sorts of strange behaviours and they say some real strange things. I have also seen some real changes in their actions. I know that his sister's husband has practiced hypnotherapy as his Dad was a Psychiatrist who practiced hypnotism.

Is there any way I can undo the negative things they have impressed on their brains. Can I undo the ugly thoughts they have implanted?

I try by telling them both how much I love them and by trying to let them know by my actions. We play games, sing, hug, take walks and of course all of our normal routine things. I try very hard to ensure their importance to me and when they say something about me that is very negative or wrong I correct it by saying that is not true and telling them what the truth is.

Any thoughts or advice is greatly welcomed and most appreciated.

Thanks
April

[Unregistered]

by the way the kids are 4 and 5.

[norbert]

Hi April,

let me try to give you the good news. There is no way to gain power over someone with hypnosis. Hynotism is a way to communicate. It is no white or black magic and it can not take control over the brain of another human being.

It is just a very powerful way to communicate as it not only communicates with your concious mind but with your unconcious mind as well. And, let me tell you in addition that your unconcious mind is also always in your control.

So do not worry about someone might have taken hidden, malicious control over your kids using hypnosis. It is impossible.

Hope that helps

[Merlin]

Hypnotism is successful because people accept suggestions.
Children are readily suggestible without formal hypnosis.

Nothing to do unless you can stop him from talking to the kids.

[Don]

Hi, April.

You wrote:

"I fear that my soon to be ex-husband is having my children hypnotised to act out against me. I have seen all sorts of strange behaviours and they say some real strange things. I have also seen some real changes in their actions. I know that his sister's husband has practiced hypnotherapy as his Dad was a Psychiatrist who practiced hypnotism...I try very hard to ensure their importance to me and when they say something about me that is very negative or wrong I correct it by saying that is not true and telling them what the truth is. "

April, it would be so very easy to blame these things on some imagined nefarious hypnotist. I'm sorry to tell that it is highly unlikely that the changes you've seen have anything to do with hypnosis.

Children, even children as young as 4 and 5, are not simply ignorant little humans. They are intelligent people without a lot of experience. Like sponges, they can absorb information and experiences all around them. And from your brief description, their actions are probably due to their lack of understanding of what's going on. All they know is that the only world they've ever known is being torn apart and they are responding to it the best they can.

But now some good news. I have a friend (a psychologist, no less), who was divorced with two wonderful children. The boys were best of friends, but when the elder son left for college, the younger one quickly packed on 50 pounds of weight. She was unaware of the problem. I found that sad because until someone becomes aware of a problem, they can't deal with it.

You, on the other hand, are clearly aware of the fact that your children are changing and you clearly want to help them.

I would like to suggest in the strongest terms that you seek professional counseling for your children. You should take them to a child psychologist. You might also consider (all of you) going to a family therapist.

The people on this board, unless they indicate otherwise, are not psychiatrists or psychologists. They are hypnotherapists. Unless someone here is qualified and licensed in this field, they are not qualified to give advice nor may they legally do so.

I'm very happy that you recognize what is going on. The sooner you get your kids (and your family) into therapy, the less likely are those changes to remain and the more likely are they to easily return to a more positive pattern.

Good luck, and let us know what happens.

[Unregistered]

Thank you for taking the time to help me better understand. I am so relieved and I definitely will be taking the children as myself to see an appropriate counselor.

Can anyone offer a good message board web site where you can get support or talk with others who are in similar situations. Divorce is such a difficult thing to got through. Something which I never thought I would ever go through. I was so surprised when I was served and now the never ending custody battle. Our case is so unusual.

I am going to also seek out a support group. I was told to call our local hospital to find out about groups. I am sure once I find the right counselor they can give references too.

Thanks again to everyone. I feel much better now.

April

[Steve]

hello,

>The people on this board, unless they indicate otherwise, are not psychiatrists or psychologists.

That's not necessarily true. There are several who are but they don't claim all their credentials. You might say that suggestions should be assumed to not be from licensed psychiatrists or psychologists but I know there have been licensed folk who did not id their credentials.