memory retrieval

[Unregistered]

I am desperate....and I have about 2 hours to come up with a tool that will help me.

The short story is that I have deliberately "forgotten" events in my life. That forgetting threatens my marriage. We are in counselling, but hit a crisis point and will not have time to allow counselling to work unless I can tap into these memories NOW.

I am sending requests everywhere I can find for help. If you think there might be something you can suggest that I can employ immediately, I will be more than glad to explain in greater depth.

Please please help.

[Don]

I would suggest that you contact a hypnotherapist locally who specializes in memory issues, sometimes described as "forensic hypnosis." Be sure you contact someone with training and experience in this area as people with little of either can end up creating inventions rather than discovering memories.

[Unregistered]

Oh, I've been down that road myself - which has complicated an already horrible situation. There is no time to do that today, however. And if my marriage survives the conversation we are going to try to have tonight, then I believe I will be able to take the time to do this correctly. I was just hoping for a suggestion of some technique to just be able to let it go!

[Don]

I wish I had a magic wand I could wave in your direction and make what you've established in your life for many years to vanish. I'm sorry, I can't. I don't think anybody can do that except to tell you, "Hey! Let it go!"

Respectfully, I know of no marriage that failed because of one conversation. Rather, it is because of a series of issues that were left unresolved for days, months, or years. An event, such as a conversation, is only the infamous "straw that broke the camel's back."

I'm not asking you to share anything you don't wish to do, so I'm going to suggest that you ask yourself, "What are all the other issues that you and your wife have been avoiding and that are culminating with an event today?" My guess is that the event today is just one of a whole series of things. Even if the event today vanished, you would still have all of those other things to deal with. How are you intending to deal with them? Perhaps you can see the events of today as just a part of a whole series of things that need to be dealt with. In that way you can deal with other events together and the event of today will become relatively smaller and unimportant.

Respectfully, you say you don't have time to allow counseling to work. What is so important in your life that you don't have the time to deal with the issues that could divide your most important relationship, that between you and your wife? Would you give up your car to make your relationship better? Would you give up your job and seek another one to make your relationship better? How about dedicating some time?

I think you might consider what is really important to you. If it is your marriage, then wouldn't you do anything, no matter how long it takes, to help it? If it is not, why are you trying to preserve it?

[Shery]

hello all , i just broke up after 3 years i know that i will face hard times so i need NLP to help me to be brave and rational to face these challenge so anyone have an advice please tell.

[Don]

Sure! Arrange a visit with a NLP practitioner. In a short time he or she will have you feeling great, aware of the lessons you've learned, and ready to move on in life.

[Poodle]

better yet, attend a great NLP Training with lots of hands on practice with other students.

Just think of it as: You are being harder on yourself than he was. At least he was nice and went away.