Rudeness on this board

[eighdta]

After what I experienced here, I had firmly made the decision, to delete my username (not possible afaik) and leave the forum, continue my searches elsewhere, and not think about it ever again.
But those extremely rude answers to a serious question got me to a point where they took my sleep away.
I know, that they cannot have any clue, how someone else, who is only posting two or three sentences on a board might feel.
But people do not ask for help for personal problems very often, even, when anonymous on a board. And someone, who does ask for help, is showing a part of his personality, that he normally hides, even from complete strangers, at all cost. And that is, why he will take cynical replies very personally.
If this had happened some years ago, when I was less stable than now, it might have started a serious downward spiral.
To all the "experts" here: If you cannot make a positive difference, admit it to yourself, and don´t make a negative one.
Even a million times more so, when you have to do with a real life client. Asking for help while showing your real name and face is a whole lot different from doing it online with an anonymous webmail identity. If someone chooses you for this, Congratulations! That guy sees you really as an extraordinarily trustable person. But if you start making fun of such a guy or belittling him, or otherwise not taking him seriously, then you can be sure, you are making a big difference. A negative one that is.

[Simple Guy]

Eighdta,

I am sorry that you received at least one rude reply. The response
was uncalled for and, therefore, was deleted by management. Most of
the people in this forum are supportive and caring, as evidenced by
the usual manner in which inquiries are responded to. Regrettably,
there are those in this, and most public forums, that may at times
be rude, or worse.

I responded to your post. (I felt that EC's reply was not an attempt
to make fun of you.) Just as writers need editors, in part because they
are too close to their own work, we all benefit from the perspectives and
expertise of others. This is important in many areas, including the
addressing of serious personal issues.

I don't criticize your question. On the contrary, I applaud your desire to
attain personal improvement. I only suggest that you don't attempt to
do so in isolation, but with the assistance of a caring and competent
local professional.

[EC]

Eighdta,

Simple is correct in that I was not "making fun of you". Apparently I missed the other postings before the thread was deleted so I do not know what other comments were made.

I was merely trying to get you to think about what you were asking/saying. Sometimes abrupt statements accomplish much. Obviously you are experiencing issues that are serious enough to you, to bring you here to look for answers. While your interest in "self help" is admirable, do you really feel that the best and most rapid method of dealing with these issues is to spend time learning to be your own therapist?

As I recall, you feel that "avoidance" is the problem. Is not ignoring the help that is available to you actually "avoidance"?

Any number of responders to this board, including myself will assist and give you information that will help you. At the same time, providing self help encouragement is merely "in my mind" enabling you to continue down the wrong path to overcoming those issues that you perceive to be a problem.

Will NLP help? Yes, so will Hynotherapy but only if these methods are utilized by a skilled practitioner. You have already taken a huge step by seeking solutions. I encourage you to take the next logical step and seek out competent help.

EC