towards and away from strategies?

[master_debator]

I was wondering, is it possible to change someones strategy...from a away from to a towards...and how is this accomplished...via self-hypnosis?

thanks

also, is there any research showing that introverts are mainly away from?

[skip]

For every towards there is an away, and vice versa.

People tend either towards or away depending on context, no one is completely one way or another.

Both strategies are valuable.

Away from is a strong motivator to get something started, but the 'further away' one gets, the less motivated people are, to keep going . Towards is often weak motivation in the beginning, but as you get closer to your goal, it becomes more and more compelling. This isnt true always, but does tend to hold true with long term goals.

Purely away from strategies dont care where you go. And therefore often 'solve' the immediate problem, without being productive in the long run. If you dont care where you are going, any path will take you there.

Changing strategies is pretty easy, first notice, then ask yourself what would you like to do instead? As you do it, feel, really feel the pleasure and satisfaction you will get having 'done instead', and having proceeded along the way to your outcome. Consciously do that a lot, and your unconscious will get the message, and begin to do it automatically.

OR you can take a course on goal setting.

Intorversion is usually a combination of low self esteem combined with a high value on safety.

People who have safety as a high value pay a heavy price.

skip

[Simple Guy]

"People who have safety as a high value pay a heavy price." Were I a
line-editor, I'd suggest modifying this one to: "People who are overly
flocused on safety pay a heavy price." :)

[skip]

Except that I meant it exactly as stated, and perhaps even more forcefully, than softly.

So for clarifications sake, if safety is in your top ten, perhaps even in the top 20, of your values, you are paying too heavy a price, and you only get the illusion of safety anyway.

Safety is a fear based value and you never ever want your life ruled or driven by fear.

Hope that clarifies.

skip

[parsa]

>People who have safety as a high value pay a heavy price.

Yeah like wars. Ironic isn't it?

[Jack]

Even safety can be valid in a horizontal way. Without it you wouldn't know what adventure was, or where to aim.

Jack

[Simple Guy]

Skip,

Thanks for your clarification. It's not always the case that safety
"is a fear based value," though. Safety (illusory as it may be) can
be a complex equivalence of a state of comfort, desirable and pleasant in
and of itself -- and independent of an away from, fear based strategy of
avoiding its absence. Agreed on the principle that "you never ever want
your life ruled or driven by fear."

[skip]

Hi Simple,

"It's not always the case that safety "is a fear based value," though. Safety (illusory as it may be) can be a complex equivalence of a state of comfort, desirable and pleasant in and of itself -- and independent of an away from, fear based strategy of
avoiding its absence."

A state consisting of a mix of comfort, etc is just that, not safety.

A value of safety cannot exist without 'safety from what', whether the 'what' is defined or not. It is fear based period.

We will just have to disagree here. :)

skip

[kosmic]

For every towards there is an away, and vice versa.

People tend either towards or away depending on context, no one is completely one way or another.

Both strategies are valuable.

Away from is a strong motivator to get something started, but the 'further away' one gets, the less motivated people are, to keep going . Towards is often weak motivation in the beginning, but as you get closer to your goal, it becomes more and more compelling. This isnt true always, but does tend to hold true with long term goals.

Purely away from strategies dont care where you go. And therefore often 'solve' the immediate problem, without being productive in the long run. If you dont care where you are going, any path will take you there.

Changing strategies is pretty easy, first notice, then ask yourself what would you like to do instead? As you do it, feel, really feel the pleasure and satisfaction you will get having 'done instead', and having proceeded along the way to your outcome. Consciously do that a lot, and your unconscious will get the message, and begin to do it automatically.

OR you can take a course on goal setting.

Intorversion is usually a combination of low self esteem combined with a high value on safety.

People who have safety as a high value pay a heavy price.

skip

that was a very enlightening post to read skip, thanks