Technique recommendation

[AnthonyM83]

I don't know much about NLP. I've been impressed with the quick swishes and other things I've seen demonstrated for different things, though.

Anyone have a technique for separating self from another person, as far as not wanting to be in their presence or have them like you? I just had a minor setback w/ a girl and its distracting me. Not to cop out with a technique, but it's not too big of a deal, just bugging me.

[skip]

The best way to get over a man or woman, is to get under another one."


cheers,

[AnthonyM83]

That's refreshingly blunt and true advice :)

I was also thinking that such a technique could be useful in other circumstances like disconnecting from friends who are unhealthy for you (stuff I've had to do in the past with great difficulty).

[daqstox]

Hi all I am new here, could you help me understand this? Thanks, Daqstox

[AnthonyM83]

Help understanding my question or Skip's reply?

I just asked for help disconnecting myself from a girl and he said the best remedy if finding another one girl.

[Neurotic1]

Do you need advice for getting someone to dislike you or do you just want her not to like you so much she spends so much time around you? For the latter you could try giving very little positive feedback in a very polite way - give so little of yourself or feedback on her thoughts in conversation that it bores her into going elsewhere for attention, break rapport with body language, that sort of thing. Alternatively, if it is the former, you have a multitude of simple things you could say or do without the need for NLP.

[AnthonyM83]

No, it's getting myself to disconnect from her, so that I don't miss her, think about her, and want to carry on anything more than a casual friendship with her. In this case, I just had one of those 'oh, i just like you as a friend' moment and it's interfering with my day. But I also, thought, such a technique could be used for other circumstances where one should disconnect herself from another (unhealthy friendships, abusive relationships, etc). So, it's self-work type stuff

[rcs]

A bit of advice....

When a girl (usually) tells you that she 'just see's you as her friend', that is most probably a sign that she has her eye on somebody else.

Skip, was very correct. Use this FREE time to take an interest in other woman again. Go forth and multiple!! :) See them, use your instincts again, become the flirt that your innerself wants to be.

You were obviously very attached to this girl and more likely as a result, detached yourself from some of your close friends. I suggest, go out, have fun with your friends. Enjoy life! No, it doesnt revolve around this girl and no she's not worth spending mental strain over because she pushed you away.

Use visualisation to enage your thoughts to something more productive and calming. You will be able to self program your thoughts to anything this way. Something negative? Create something positive.

I'm no 'agony aunt', so I'll be quiet now.... :o

Good luck,
Richard.

[Hypnomania]

Hi Anthony, try to work with submodalities. Close your eyes and imagine the girl. Where is the picture of the girl located? How big is the picture? Listen if there is any sound. Do you see a movie or a standing picture? Is it black and white or in colour? Just realize how you imagine her and then change the submodalities. Imagine that you have a tv control in your hand and with that you can change all details of the picture. If there is colour, put the colour out of it. Turn the sound of or change the sound. For example give the girl a micky mouse voice. Make the picture smaller. Try to work with stuff like that. At the end you should feel different about the girl.