Strange but serious question...

[Unregistered]

First of all I'd like to say that I found this board browsing, and I think that this seems like a good place to get the information I am seeking.

I am a 23y/o male who is in a relationship with a 21y/o male. One problem that I have with my partner deals with an affectionate/sexual issue...he's not ticklish at all.

I know it might sound strange, but I would like for him to be ticklish because I'm the type that likes to show affection that way sometimes, and also its a turn on for me in the bedroom. I have told him that I'd like for him to be and he has said that he's willing to try hypnotism if thats what it would take.

So my questions are: Can I hypnotize him into being ticklish? Can I hypnotize him to like it? Can I hypnotize him to be only ticklish in one certain spot?

Just a shot in the dark here. Let me know. I'm not in any way, shape, or form a hynotist. I have never tried, and never had it tried on me. I personally (as well as he) do not believe in it, but am willing to try. So I guess thats a first step right?

Someone help :-)

Also something worth noting. He told me before that when he was really young (elementary years) he used to be deathly ticklish everywhere especially on his feet. Since then though he has either grown out of it, or just become immune to it (so he says). Could this have an affect on hypnotizing him?

[Unregistered]

I know people are gonna yell at me for telling you this, but IN MY OPINION you should somewhat believe in it for it to work. Because hypnotism isn't really as powerful as what *I* thought it was in the first place, I thought all I had to do was to close my eyes and the hypnotist would do the rest! It turned out to be, I had to get myself in trance and I also had to do all the thinking! *SURPRISE*

In opposition to your partner however, I'd like to know how to get RID off the ticklish-problem because it sucks when you can't even get a massage without hurting the person doing it to you, cause it tickles so bad! Haha seriously, your partner should take this into a deep consideration!!

[Unregistered]

"Haha seriously, your partner should take this into a deep consideration!!"

Thanks for your reply. I think it can work even on non-believers. I almost want to say that most non-believers would be the easiest to hypnotize simply because they are ignorant as to how it really works.

About my partner taking it into consideration. He wouldnt have told me he would try it if he didnt mean it. He doesnt *hate* being tickled so he wouldnt mind it if he was. Its not like I'm doing it so I can tickle him to death, but more like so we can play around and get in tickle fights, and then in the bed (like I said before) its a turn on for me.

[skip]

The only help would be for him to come on and say that HE wasnted to be ticklish.

The help for you is for you to realize that in relationships you either accept the other person as they are or you dont, trying to change them is the wrong road to go down.

[Unregistered]

My question was "Can it be done" if it can then I would let him know and see if he wanted to proceed from there. I'm not trying to change him, but because I love him and its something I enjoy he's willing to try that for me. I'd be willing to do the same.

[Caleb_20]

I made an account. I originally submitted this question.

[j0hnny#]

Seems that to be tickled you need to be in a position where you cannot but be dominated by the ticklee. If there is no possibility for you to be in a submissive position then there is no possibility of your being tickled. Could be that you need to consider your role in the situation you want to develop. If you have no power over your victim, then you won't be able to tickle him / her. Maybe you, therefore, need to develop a trait (for this particular situation - just because you can tickle one person doesn't mean you can tickle all - you have to master any art). It is natural to react a certain way when situations and circumstances arise, and tickling can be considered responsible for the development of close social bonds. I doubt that your partner is unticklable. You probably can develop the power to do it. Could be that the 'problem' is on your part. Maybe you are looking in the wrong place for a solution i.e. your partner. Of course, your partner could be too serious about it and so only react with pain or irritation. But he's got a sense of humour I would imagine. My girlfriend gets me sometimes and I can hardly breath with laughter, it could be painful when she kneals on my arms and digs into my ribs with her pointed fingers and a beaming smile, but she's just playing and it is a lot of hilarity! Same with my son, when I tickle him he doesn't know how to deal with it - he is all over the place in hysterics. What other reactions could he have. If I was in a certain mood, maybe he would (heaven forbid) start crying. If my girlfriend was angry and tried to tickle me, or nervous or something, then it wouldn't have the same effect. But she can be relentless when she's in that playful mood and the effects are immense. Also, I think it can have something to do with spontaneity, if it was planned or on the agenda then there is no way it would have the impact it does - it has to be spontaneous, a surprise attack, and relentless, in a playful spirit. Usually, if you have good 'rapport' with people, i.e. they trust you and you can tease them, for example, they enter into the same spirit of things as you do. If you're not getting the reaction you want out of people it can be a lot to do with your behaviour. If an approach isn't working, try something else (- good NLP doctrine that). This site, and direction of people here, archives, etc. will lead you to all the tools you need to be in command of what you want. Often people think they don't want something they would if they had it, though better they don't know they want it until they have it (in this case in particular perhaps), hm?

Hypnosis seems to me to be a weird sort of thing, and some of the encounters I've had with hypnotic material (human or otherwise) has been disappointing.. promised so much and delivered so little. However, I've recently stumbled across some excellent material in the form of Stephen Brooks - 'The art of indirect suggestion' - (audio/CD IMO well worth the cash). You don't need to believe in hypnosis, although you will surely believe that what you say has some sort of effect on people. And, you will probably agree that some people are more influential than others (?). There are things to be learned about influence. And influence is the way you direct your world - whether conscious or unconscious. However, I think that to be influential, you need to be flexible. A person is never incapable of being influenced (influence is pervasive) although the direction of the influences upon you can have certain outcomes (your behaviour doesn't bring out the tickleishness in your partner - that is the influence of your behaviour, but he is capable of it, he reacted appropriately at one time, didn't he..(?)), but there are tools my friend, should you choose to learn and use them. Hypnosis often brings to mind a formal therapeutic procedural context - fair enough - but isn't just everyday conversation the greatest forum for influence (?) - this is afterall the whole purpose of the hypnotist (influence... for whatever reason).

Change, my friend, it is THEkey word....

Johnny

[Terry (existing)]

I doubt that any of us have been asked to do something of this nature before, considering that it would require an expenditure of a considerable amount to achieve such a silly change.....Why would anyone in their right mind wish to become ticklish if they weren't? Can it be done, Yes it can, but it would cost at least $250.00 for a session with a good practitioner, and more than one session might be required.

[Unregistered]

I've seen a cd on Wendi Friesen's website called "hypnotize your lover". The idea is that her voice on the cd will put your sweetheart into trance, and then you can give him hypnotic suggestions (in your case, "you are sensitive to tickling" and etc). I haven't tried it myself, but it sounds like fun and you might give it a look...

https://secure9.nexternal.com/shared/StoreFront/default.asp?CS=wendi&BusType=BtoC&Count1=544780910&Count2=461921334&Target=products%2Easp&ProductID=291

[Merlin]

Hello,

Yes it can be done.
However, it is likely not a simple suggestion such as 'be ticklish'.
There may be an emotional healing need.
If so, it may be more than one session with a hypnotist to resolve.

[Shlomo_NLP]

now that's a cool request!!!

tickle people with Hypnosis... wow... now I have my own little new year resolution ready!!! :-)

[Caleb_20]

I let my partner read the responses and I havent yet got a response from him on whether or not he'd still like to try it.

Thanks for all the helpful advice. I see that some of you think its an interesting question, while others seem to think its not such a great thing to pose. In any case I'll take what everyone said and form my own conclusion with my partner.

Thanks again!

[Unregistered]

First of all I'd like to say that I found this board browsing, and I think that this seems like a good place to get the information I am seeking.

I am a 23y/o male who is in a relationship with a 21y/o male. One problem that I have with my partner deals with an affectionate/sexual issue...he's not ticklish at all.

I know it might sound strange, but I would like for him to be ticklish because I'm the type that likes to show affection that way sometimes, and also its a turn on for me in the bedroom. I have told him that I'd like for him to be and he has said that he's willing to try hypnotism if thats what it would take.

So my questions are: Can I hypnotize him into being ticklish? Can I hypnotize him to like it? Can I hypnotize him to be only ticklish in one certain spot?


If he's never been ticklish, you're going to have to describe a completely new concept to him. How on Earth are you going to describe something that complex? All you'll be doing is to convince him to have a pleasurable response to your touch, which is what you have already. What's wrong with this guy that he can't just, and this is no reflection on you at all, fake it?

[Caleb_20]

"If he's never been ticklish, you're going to have to describe a completely new concept to him. How on Earth are you going to describe something that complex?"

Read past the question...

"Also something worth noting. He told me before that when he was really young (elementary years) he used to be deathly ticklish everywhere especially on his feet. Since then though he has either grown out of it, or just become immune to it (so he says). Could this have an affect on hypnotizing him?"

He was ticklish long ago, and certainly hasnt forgotten what it feels like, but he's lost it almost completely. So my question was can I make him feel it again?

[Unregistered]

"If he's never been ticklish, you're going to have to describe a completely new concept to him. How on Earth are you going to describe something that complex?"

Read past the question...

"Also something worth noting. He told me before that when he was really young (elementary years) he used to be deathly ticklish everywhere especially on his feet. Since then though he has either grown out of it, or just become immune to it (so he says). Could this have an affect on hypnotizing him?"

He was ticklish long ago, and certainly hasnt forgotten what it feels like, but he's lost it almost completely. So my question was can I make him feel it again?
In that case, yes.

[Unregistered]

yeah this is all put a new hope in me but I'm curious. Lets say a person used to be ticklish, and you "train" that person to be ticklish in the hypnotic state, when they come out of the state of hypnosis, will they still be as ticklish as you told that person to be while they were hypnotized?

[Don]

That would depend upon the way the suggestions were given.

[Unregistered]

That would depend upon the way the suggestions were given.

so that means that it's still possible?

[Unregistered]

That would depend upon the way the suggestions were given.

so that means that it's still a tangable possibility?

[Shlomo_NLP]

as long as it is possible for one person to be 'ticklish", it is possible to help another person learn it... or just tickle your own way...

[Toetruck]

I doubt that any of us have been asked to do something of this nature before, considering that it would require an expenditure of a considerable amount to achieve such a silly change.....Why would anyone in their right mind wish to become ticklish if they weren't? Can it be done, Yes it can, but it would cost at least $250.00 for a session with a good practitioner, and more than one session might be required.

Hey Terry (existing)...This is possibly the most insensitive response I have ever heard from a "Professional". Question...do you always pass judgement on the people who come to you for help?

I have an identical situation ongoing with my wife and we are both seeing a licenced hypnotherapist for this...she was a heck of a lot more understanding than you seem to be. As for the price? A WHOPPING $250.00....for a life-enriching change?...WOW?

A tickling fixation is not a minor thing to those afflicted with it. Like any pathology, it begins in childhood and doesn't just go away in adulthood.
If anything the frustration of not being able to feel or offer a tickle can lead to many other problems and frustrations with respect to personal/human intimacy...maybe you think these are silly too?

And yes...according to MY hypnotherapist I AM in my right mind.

[Terry (existing)]

Ah, so you consider my response to be insensitive do you? Well after rereading it, I can find no fault, so obviously you are in error:)
As for being in "your right mind", as you comment, I am not surprised. After all who would want yours when they have a perfectly good on of their own?
Glad you are happy with your therapist, but why if you are, do you choose to read old posts on this subject? In fact, why do you come her at all if you have a perfectly good local to serve your needs? Frankly, I suspect an obfuscation here.....:eek:

[Nigel H]

As you mention:

" ..... but I would like for him to be ticklish because I'm the type that likes to show affection that way sometimes, and also its a turn on for me in the bedroom. I have told him that I'd like for him to be and he has said that he's willing to try hypnotism if thats what it would take."


The other option here - and I am susprised that one of our regulars has not thought to mention it - 'cos often we do share views! [but far from always] ....... is to deal with the side of you and why YOU need to show affection in this way?

If your desire to show affection in this way is feeling dampened by his not accepting your tickle, or reacting in the way you desire - then the other thing could be to deal with your need for that interraction - then the issue would no longer be important, even if he does not change.

In this way you deal with it head on and remove the need for him to enter in to something that he may not feel he really needs. Don't get me wrong, if he is happy to have it dealt with in this way that's great - and there is more than one answer to your query on getting beyond the issue at hand - as it were!!

Nig